Smart Girls Read

Want to stretch and expand your mind? From books to articles, movies, online videos, websites and podcasts, there’s a wealth of wonderful materials to turn on various parts of that bad girl inside of you. Here are some items that have caught my eye.

March ’11 Selections:

“Jealousy and Swinging” by AW on eioba

Wow. I don’t think I’ve seen a more thorough treatment of this topic. With statistics and lots of references to back it up, too. Some conclusions may surprise you. I’m not sure I agree with the Playcouple^(tm) philosophy espoused here. I believe it can be about real relationships or I wouldn’t be writing this blog.

“Soft Swinging vs. Hard Swinging” by Dale Kentucky

There are many options for hooking up with other people. This article explores a few of them. The option I prefer—large group play—isn’t discussed here. But then again, I’m wilder than most!

“New to Swinging: 5 Tips for Couples dating” by Leading LifeStyle Expert Robyn Scott in American Chronicle

If you thought dating as a single had its challenges, couples dating can magnify them. Just try getting four people to like each other. I have on numerous occasions. This article brings forward a few things to think about. Number Three is really key.

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February ’11 Selections:

How to Handle Valentine’s Day When You’re Polyamorous by David Moye on AOLNews

What do you do to celebrate Valentine’s Day? Seems there’s a difference between single swingers and polyamorists. While I beg to disagree that swinging is “sport sex” for some of us, the heart of this article resonates for me.

How Facebook Has Changed Sex by Carolyn Kylstra on Men’s Health

What percentage of Facebook users don’t list their true relationship status? Or use it to flirt with someone other than their current partner? These ten stats are revealing. C’mon … sneek a peek at them.

More Sex Might Lead to Younger Appearance by Katie Reilley in Kansas State Collegian

Is it truth or fiction? The revival of a 1999 study has people asking if a youthful appearance is directly linked to the amount of sex you have. If it is, I’m game! Even if it isn’t, I’m not about to dismiss it.

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July ’10 Selections:

Swinger Shock: Older Age No Defense Against STDs by Kim Carollo, ABC News

When Kim sent out a query asking for comments about the research cited in this article, I just had to respond. Read what I’ve been observing as I make my way through the swinger lifestyle. And what the statistics say. Does this mean men and women in their 20s are practicing safer sex than those of us who are older? Sad if you ask me.

Sorry, Guys: Up to 80 Percent of Women Admit Faking It by Brian Alexander on MSNBC

Another sex study. Ladies, while those sounds we make while waiting for the orgasm to cum and cum and cum (ho hum), do boost his ego and speed up his ejaculation. Now, why would we want to get it over with? I don’t know about you, but I like being the four-hour girl.

No Sex Please, We’re Middle Class by Camille Paglia in The New York Times

Huh. Camille says there’s a “sexual malaise” that has sunk over the country? Really? Not in my world. Has the power of sexuality waned? Are our sexual inhibitions pervasive? Or is this just one woman’s opinion? Read on.

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June ’10 Selections:

You Say Taboo, I Say I Do by Chelsea G. Summers in Filthy Gorgeous Things
Do you engage in sex with strangers because it’s taboo? Or out of pure enjoyment? This article made me think about my own motivations. Especially given all the taboos I was handed as a young woman. And our society’s mores. I wonder what it’ll spark in you.

Diddler on the Roof, or, the Sexiest Jewish Movies by Van Wallach on BlogCritics
This is quite the undertaking. To identify the “sexiest” Jewish movies of all times. I’ve only seen a handful of them. The indepth descriptions intrigue me. Guess I know what I’m watching this summer. With or without Tank. When I’m not making a “movie” of my own!

A Very Slippery Slope by CXX on The Swingers Board
Be forewarned. Never, ever try this product in this manner. What was this guy thinking? And what about the woman he was with? Then again, it was in the heat of the moment!

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May ’10 Selections:

What Price Happiness? by Naomi Wolf in More Magazine
I know the exact day and moment in January 2007 when I realized I was truly happy for the first time in my life. I celebrated by doing my version of the happy dance in my kitchen. So, is it true that women are less happy today? Read this article and find out for yourself.

For Office Romance, The Secret’s Out by Sue Shellenbarger in the The Wall Street Journal
I met my first husband when I was 18. He was my boss during the summer of 1977. We worked side-by-side in a chemical repackaging company. We had to keep our dating a secret or risk losing our jobs. Find out why this may not be the case anymore.

How to Kiss Well by Ben Van Heuvelen in YourTango
I went to college at UW Madison. That’s where I met Jim. We were both presidents of our respective dorm floors. Whenever we held joint parties, he and I inevitably ended up in his bed, kissing for hours on end. He’s the guy who taught me these tips. I’m forever grateful to him since all the men I meet today get turned on immediately by a great kiss!

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April ’10 Selections:

37 Red-Hot Sex Boosters in Australian Women’s Health:  While I can’t embrace #35 since my guys prefer spiked heels on me, I’m partial to #16, #20, #34, #37… Actually, I like most of these ideas and the 54 other techniques mentioned in the June 2009 issue of Women’s Health (“Little Moves, Big Pleasures” which I can’t seem to find online. Until I do, here’s a starter list.

Spice Up Your Lovemaking With the Sex Pyramid by Jenna McCarthy on Today:  Hmmm. So they just figured out that different types of lovemaking can help you have more fun in bed? I’ve been ordering everything on the menu for a while. Have you? Watch the video for a brief explanation. Don’t forget to also look at the “Foods to Feed Your Sex Drive” video, too.

The Pill’s Secret Powers by Beth Howard, Women’s Health:  Other than a six-month period in 2008, I’ve been on birth control pills for 30+ years (the last ten on continuous feed, meaning I only have a menstrual cycle twice a year). I always knew there were benefits to doing so. Here’s the latest on the pros—and the cons. Now I know why my doctor loves having me on them—even at age 51.

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March ’10 Selections:

“Bad Girls vs. Good Girls” by Matthew Fitzgerald, on AskMen.com: A man’s perspective on what distinguishes a good girl from a bad girl. It assumes a woman can only be one or the other—and that bad girls are only “worth it in the short term.” Hah! Comment on this article and help Matthew get a clue.

“The Rise of the Hot Jewish Girl: Why American Men are Lusting After Women of the Tribe” by Christopher Noxon, for Details.com: Finally! Being one of the “tribe” is enticing to men. I’m feeling good about this. LOL In this article, find out why women like me have become the latest fetish.

“Why Millions of Women Are Using Porn and Erotica” reported by Lisa Ling, on Oprah.com: One in three women consume porn online. This statistic doesn’t surprise me. Does it you? Learn how women are changing the nature of what’s being produced and how it can help in the bedroom.

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